Tips & Tricks: Decor

Decorations at a wedding can really help to create your desired ambiance and today we'll be sharing tips and tricks for how to decorate different elements of your wedding day!

Transportation

Let's start with getting to your wedding venue. There are many options, dependent on your budget, your attire, and your style: bicycle, scooter, motorcycle, horse & carriage, vintage auto, town car, limo, bus, trolley, your own car or a friend's car. Some things to consider when selecting your transportation option include:

• The number of people you need to transport, and does everyone need to travel altogether or in smaller groups?
• Are there any restrictions for vehicle types at any of your venues?
• Does the route to the venue limit the type of vehicle you select?

If you'll be hiring a company, make sure to get everything in writing and ensure that you have an after-hours/emergency contact number. Be aware of the good routes to take and do some research to see if any local events may affect traffic. Also, if you're planning to decorate the car, double-check with the owner of the vehicle (a company, your friend, etc) about any restrictions.

Ceremony

The amount of decorating that you do for your ceremony depends on what the space looks like and what you would like it to look like. Here are some considerations for aisle runners, as well as some ideas here and here.

Reception

Depending on the venue, you may consider having fabric backdrops or curtains that incorporate your wedding colours or making adjustments to the lighting. It's helpful to visit the venue at a similar time of day to which your reception will be held to get a good idea of what the space will look like. Here are some general tips on sprucing up your venue.

A guestbook is a fabulous way for guests to share their thoughts and tips with you on your celebratory day. Here are some options beyond a blank book:

• DIY: Print out photos and stick them into a stylish notebook using photo corners. Guests can sign the blank spaces around the photos or on designated pages.
• Have a personalized book printed; some online companies that do this include shutterfly and mixbook.
• Skip the book and ask guests to sign a mat that frames your favourite photo.
• Make a wish tree by setting up a bare tree and having guests write messages on slips of colourful paper that are then tied onto the branches.
• Have guests write toes on stickie notes; these can be added to a wedding scrapbook later.
• Set out wine bottles and a contrasting colour of permanent market, then have guests sign the bottles; if they're empty, they can be used to bottle your favourite wine later. What a great way to relive your wedding years from now!
• Set out puzzle pieces for guests to sign, then put the pieces together after the wedding!

If your guests will be seated at tables, covering the chairs can make a big difference; click here and here for chair cover ideas. Make sure you have arrangements for table cloths, either with your venue, another service provider, or your family or friends. For ideas on table settings, see here, here, and here. Tables also typically have table numbers (to coincide with a seating chart) and can have place cards as well (to let guests know where to sit).

Here are some ideas for centrepieces, which can be contemporary, fairly simple, and not necessarily floral. If you do go the floral route, consider using recyclable vases such as the blumebox, mason jars, or old wine glasses. Depending on the time of year, fruits, vegetables, potted spices or other plants can make for edible or long-term use centrepieces. Decorations can also be made out of paper and kept as memorabilia. Sawyer and Sprout, one of this year's vendors, has some cute decorative options:

I was looking for flower alternatives that would last longer and be reusable. Fabric and paper items are timeless, and I really enjoy using these mediums in an unexpected way. I love to create items that can be kept and used year over year, becoming heirlooms. They become a kind of memory sharing.

Once you've decided that you'd like to give favours to your guests, consider using reusable or practical products, such as soap from one of this year's vendors, Dot & Lil.

The last word comes from Anne of Dot & Lil:

There are lots of ways to have a wedding! Just have fun with it, and try and find ways to have your wedding really express who you are and what you're about. It's such a perfect and unique opportunity to express who you are as a couple. Handmade and indie items really lend themselves to custom, one of a kind creation in a way that makes that easy.

Tips & Tricks Thursday: Flowers!

When you visualize your wedding, do you see flowers in a bouquet, boutonniere or centre-piece? Include flowers when you're thinking about colour schemes and the general feel of the event.

I want real flowers.

There are several things that you may want to keep in mind if you will be incorporating flowers into your event:

• Time of year: find companies that support local growers such as full bloom floral design (Erin of full bloom will have a workshop at Wed By Hand on DIY flowers) or research flowers that are in-season at the time of your wedding.
• Colours that will surround you, such as those at your wedding facilities or those worn by you, your partner, and other significant people (eg. bridesmaids/groomsmen).
• Surrounding conditions, such as temperature, humidity, wind, chance of precipitation, combined with the length of your event can affect how well your flowers keep throughout the day.
• For bouquet/boutonniere: the size and shape, relative to the person carrying or wearing it, as well as any sensitivities or allergies.
• Environmental effects: if you're interested in organic flowers in Ottawa, one option may be the Collective Conscience.

Just as with other aspects of a wedding, you can go completely the DIY route (see here and here for helpful instructions and photos) or you can work with floral designers, such as blumenstudio or Sparrow Floral. If you'll be hiring a professional, start researching companies and prices when you start planning your wedding.

There are alternatives to the typical floral bouquet. You can carry a single stem of your favourite flower or you can have a wildflower or evergreen bouquet. When you're securing the bouquet together, consider using a biodegradable ribbon instead of wire.

Again, working with flowers that are appropriate for the season and the surroundings at your event (eg. will it be humid or windy?) will make caring for your flowers easier. See here and here for some guidance on caring for your flowers before the wedding. For your centrepiece, old mason jars, vintage vases, or cans make great recycled vases.

Remember to compost your flowers after the event or put them in your green bin. Your bouquet can also make for a great keepsake; you can try to dry them or preserve them yourself, or hire a professional service to do it.

I don't want real flowers.

There are many alternatives to the traditional floral bouquet.

Historically, herbs and spices were used with or instead of flowers. These can be carried as your bouquet or made into boutonnieres, adding a pleasant smell to your wedding; just make sure that nobody is sensitive to the scent.

Bouquets can also be made up of items such as silk flowers, candy, buttons, jewellery, or candles. You can also make flowers from a variety of materials, including origami (see here for an example), tissue paper, cupcake liners, and yarn and paper. See here and here for bouquet alternatives, or check out bouquets on Etsy. Making your own bouquet or arrangements can be time-intensive, so if you go this route, leave yourself plenty of time to practice making the flowers - and making enough flowers - before your wedding.

For the centrepiece, consider using live plants, including potted herbs, instead of cut flowers.

Alternative to the Bouquet Toss?

The typical bouquet toss involves calling out all of the single ladies at your wedding and tossing your bouquet in their direction, with the idea that the lady who catches the bouquet will be the next to be married.

If you're looking for an alternative to this traditional bouquet toss, you can consider honoring someone at your wedding with your bouquet like the longest married couple, the next couple getting married, or a special person.

Tips & Tricks Thursday: Papers and Envelopes and Websites, Oh My!

You've booked your venue for a certain date and time. Now it's time to let your friends and family know!

Save the Dates?

There are a few scenarios where save-the-date cards are particularly helpful and allow guests to make plans accordingly:

• Guests are travelling from out-of-town and moreso, out-of-country.
• Guests who may need extra time to make arrangements.
• Destination weddings.

There are various options for save-the-dates, including cards, postcards, or magnets. Key information that should be on every save-the-date is: the date, the location, and an indication that a formal invitation is to come.

The Look

The invitation is the first taste that guests will have of your wedding. Invites are a great way to start incorporating the theme, colour scheme or other important components of your wedding. With wedding invitations, you can be as hands on or as hands off as you desire (or have time for!).

• There are many companies that help you create personalized cards or postcards, such as Wedding Paper Divas (based in California) or Six. modern paper goods (based in Almonte).
• Check out theknot.com's 25 Unexpected Invite Ideas You'll Love for some alternative invite inspiration.
• Use a designer to create an image or design that reflects you and yours.
• Select paper and envelopes that reflect you and yours; recycled paper, handmade paper, plantable seeded paper...there are many options!
• Visit local stationery stores such as the Papery (850 Bank St) or the Paper Papier (18 Clarence St) to see stationery options if you're interested in making your invites from scratch.

Online Presence

One key thing to keep in mind as you prepare your invitations is to not include too much information. Nowadays, it's quite popular and convenient to have a wedding website that will give your guests all of the information that you want to share with them but couldn't include on your paper invites. There are many free wedding websites such as theknot.com, many premium wedding websites, or free blogs that can double as wedding websites. See here for ideas on content for your wedding website.

The Content

No matter what type of celebration you're planning, there are a few key details that should be included in any invitation:

• The date and location of venue(s) (if you have a lot of out-of-town guests, it may be helpful to include a map of the area)'
• Basic overview of times: for the ceremony, cocktails, receptions, tea ceremony, apres-wedding lunch, etc. (if people are expected to be somewhere at a certain time, include it).
• Any RSVP information that you need for coordinating the logistics of the day such as the number of guests and meal choices, as well as a RSVP deadline.

Some things to consider when you're thinking about the wording and content of your invites:

• Here is some info on wedding invitation wording and an invitation wording wizard tool to select something to reflect your family situation.
• Proofread your invite for grammar, spelling, and typos.
• There are different ways to word your response card. See here, here, and here for ideas.

For response cards, make it easy for your guests by pre-addressing and stamping the return envelope, including your contact information should they have any questions, and making it clear what information you need. Small details can really help you out, as Danielle of Six Modern Paper Goods points out:

Write numbers on the back of your RSVPs and keep track of who you sent each number to - It's amazing how many people forget to write their names on the reply card!

From Here to There

Typically, the outer envelope is addressed formally; see here for some examples. You can use a personalized seal or sticker on the back of the envelope for a nice finishing touch. A great tip from Vincent of Everlovin' Press:

For a special touch, get your own personalized stamps made for mailing those invites out.

You can also create personalized postcards with Canada Post; their pricing includes printed postcards and delivery anywhere in the world.

If you'll be mailing your invitations, don't find yourself underpaying on the postage, just thinking that a standard stamp will cover the cost; your envelopes could be returned to you up to several weeks later with an 'insufficient postage' stamp on it...probably not the look you were going for!

To avoid this, take one stuffed envelope to Canada Post and have it weighed so that you know how much it'll cost; currently with Canada Post, the standard postage is for letters up to 30g. There are also size requirements for standard letters. Rectangular envelopes are cheaper to send than square ones. Thick envelopes may cost more to send. If you'd likely to specially select the stamp design without having personalized stamps made, Canada Post has a wide variety of stamps available for sale.

Keeping Track

Having a spreadsheet to keep track of information such as who you've invited, what number their invitation has, who has responded, and what their meal choices are will help you determine things like who you need to follow up with. A spreadsheet is also more easily searchable than a text-based document.

Tips & Tricks Thursday: Dressing up!

Shopping for wedding attire can be difficult enough for guests, but what about for the two actually getting married? We've compiled some tips to help you have a good experience getting dressed up.

When to shop

Where you get your dress from will determine how far in advance you will need to shop. Looking for a good deal may take a bit of sleuthing whereas borrowing your mother's dress won't take much time at all. No matter where you get your dress from, it's highly likely that you'll have to have alterations done (on- or off-site...usually more than once) so leave enough time for that. Stores may need to special order your dress as well. To avoid stress, if you're purchasing a dress, start as early as you can. This will allow you some time for events like sample sales or trunk shows happening in Ottawa or nearby.

Getting ready to shop

Getting ready to go dress shopping? You may think that not eating before trying on dresses will give you the best look but dress-shopping can be time-consuming, so take time to nourish yourself and just think: you'll likely be eating at your wedding in your dress (ie. You don't want it to be too tight). Bring along something to keep you hydrated too. Also, if eating beforehand messes up your make-up, no need to worry as some stores may not allow make-up while you try on dresses.

Click here for a few wedding dress silhouettes and consider what works for you. The shopping experience that you have will depend on the store that you visit but no matter where you go, you will be getting undressed and dressed many times, so don't forget to think about what undergarments you wear; if you're modest, consider bringing a slip (although some stores may provide one or a bustier). Depending on the dress, a strapless bra may be fine while some dresses will have built in cups or boning. For the bottoms, comfort is important; if your dress is more form-fitting, consider wearing a body-shaper (such as spanx). If you have a certain type of shoe in mind (flats versus stilettos), bring those along as well.

A tip from Chelsy of chelsy anne:

Don't let the dress compete with the jewellery. If you have tons of detail at the top of the dress do statement earrings over a statement necklace.

Also, if you're having a destination wedding, find something that is not only suitable for the climate and the landscape but also for the transportation. For example, if you're travelling on a budget airline or to a popular wedding destination during peak times, cargo space (in cabin) may be very limited.

Time to wear what you got!

You've found a dress and it fits you perfectly. Before you head to your wedding, practice walking and sitting in your dress. Try your dress on with the undergarments that you'll be wearing at your wedding. If your wedding isn't at your house, you'll likely have to transport the dress. If your dress will be travelling far, you'll also want to think about whether the dress may need to be pressed or cleaned before the wedding. If you have a complicated dress, don't forget to ask a friend to help you in the bathroom.

Oh yes – and don't forget to enjoy yourself!

And what about the gents?

Here are some tips on shopping for a tuxedo but theknot.com has some great articles on helping grooms and groomsmen look sharp at the wedding.

Bridesmaids and mothers

Theknot.com has some articles for bridesmaids and mothers as well. If you're looking to save some money, why not find secondhand dresses that are all of the same colour or design and personalize them with your own special details, such as a sash, buttons, or shawls. You can visit crafty sites such as Etsy to gather inspiration. If you find a set of light-coloured dresses or outfits, you can also dye them to a suitable colour or colours.

Tips & Tricks Thursday: On Planning

You've decided to officially commit to your partner...congratulations! Now what? Start off by having frank discussions together about how you would like to recognize and celebrate this commitment. Would you like to have a big wedding, a small wedding, something nearby or a destination wedding? Do either of your families have expectations for you and how will you handle those together? What is your budget and are there elements that you absolutely want to include in whatever you decide to do? As you start considering these questions, here are some guides to help you along:

• Torontobrides.com on planning a wedding on a strict budget
• Frugal Dad on planning a wedding on a budget
• Theknot.com on wedding budget options (who pays!?)
• Theperfectweddingguide.com has a free wedding checklist (pdf)
• About.com has a wedding budget worksheet
• Check out the Wedding Planners Institute of Canada, a certification program for wedding coordinators.

Keep in mind that there are many professionals available to help plan or execute your event. You can choose from a full wedding planner, a partial wedding planner where you can get help with certain aspects of wedding planning, or a wedding coordinator for day-of assistance. Here's a tip from Bridget of {First Kiss Films}:

Hire a wedding coordinator, or at least a wedding day-of planner. You don't want to worry about any of the details on your wedding day. Having a professional on-site making sure the day is running as planned allows for you [to] enjoy each moment and be relaxed (it'll show on your face and you'll look even more radiant on film.

Jane of I Do...Green! Creative Eco-Wedding Planning echoes Bridget on this point:

Enjoy every single minute of your day! If you're a DIY bride and want to plan your wedding yourself, you should still have a coordinator onsite for the day-of. When the time comes you will want someone to take control & ensure all of the little things get done; and don't rely on family or friends to do it.

You can draw on inspiration from magazines, your friends and family, and the internet but in the end, Anne of Dot & Lil says it well:

"There are lots of ways to have a wedding! Just have fun with it, and try and find ways to have your wedding really express who you are and what you're about. It's such a perfect and unique opportunity to express who you are as a couple. Handmade and indie items really lend themselves to custom, one of a kind creation in a way that makes that easy."

This blog can also be a great resource for DIY ideas to add that special touch to your day. Whether you have a wedding in Ottawa or Hawaii, or a ceremony at city hall, remember to enjoy the time you spend together. No matter what you decide to do, it's easy to get lost in the imagination, planning and organizing. I wanted to share a fabulous final tip from Amy of Splendid Events:

         "Remember to keep time for yourselves. Planning a wedding is a huge project with countless details to juggle, and there's no denying that it gets stressful. Throughout your planning months, make sure you set aside time where wedding talk is strictly off-limits. Go out to a movie, go see a play, stay in and make a great dinner, whatever you like. Turn off your cell phones and laptops and just enjoy one another's company."

Happy planning!

Tips & Tricks Thursday: Accessories

Maybe you naturally gravitate towards accessories or maybe they're just another item on the wedding planning checklist.  Either way, accessories are a great way for you, your partner, and your wedding party to express themselves in their own ways.  Different cultures also have their own accessories and traditions as well. With so many accessories to choose from, here are some tips and tricks to get to know some of the latest trends. 

For ladies, accessories could include pieces for the head/hair, earrings, glasses, necklace, bracelets or bangles, a purse, a garter, and wonderful shoes. For the gents, consider hats, glasses, ties or bow ties, boutonnieres, suspenders, a handkerchief, a tie clip, cufflinks, a cummerbund to make your look unique.

Head

Gents, whether it's vintage or brand new, your head can be dressed up with a stylish hat.

For the bride, traditional veils continue to be popular. If you want to save some money or want to create something unique, making a veil can be a great DIY project. In Tuesday’s post we talked about making your own facinator and here are some other culturally-inspired headpieces.If you're not interested in a veil but want something on your head or in your hair, consider a tiara, hair vine, or a barrette? Bridal hats are a cool alternative headpiece that can have many different looks.

Looking for that “something borrowed”?  Why not canvass your family and friends for a fun something to wear on your head or in your hair at the wedding?  Remember to try it on with your dress, suit, or tux to figure out if it works.  If you wear glasses (or even if you don't), vintage glasses can add some flair to your outfit.

Feet

Looking for that “something old”?  Grab a favourite pair of shoes or shop for a used pair, then spice them up to give them a new look for the wedding. Ladies, whether you plan on wearing sandals, flats, or 3” heels, there are various ways to add some personal pizazz to your shoes.

• If you've found the perfect pair of shoes but it's not quite the right colour or you want to add some glittery goodness, check this or this out.  The second link also walks you through giving a vintage-style shoe a (new) vintage look.
• Accessorize your shoes with ribbon or flower shoe clips or fabric.
• Monogram the soles of your shoes with your or your partner's initials; a small touch that is especially great if you might be photographed sitting down.
• Check out Figgie Shoes for a very personalized painted pair of shoes.

Everything In Between
Cufflinks can be custom designed by a local jeweller such as Magpie in Ottawa or made like this or this using cardstock, epoxy resin, and or this using some wire and rivets.  You can find cufflink backings or blank cufflinks through Etsy (search DIY cufflinks).

A handkerchief is a fashion accessory that can also be quite practical. The hanky is a classic reusable tissue! Make your own from fabric around the house or buy one at your local department or vintage store.

Looking for that “something blue”?  Add a blue accessory to your ensemble. How about choosing flowers or a garter with some blue in it.  If you're doing a garter toss at the wedding but you'd like to keep a garter as a keepsake, remember to have an extra one on hand.